the day after
i've been out of it here in vancouver getting ready to start a new movie and therefore a little out of touch, but it's good to know that bart and i and julie won't be the only ones discussing the film any more. there are many experiences to doing a film. there's the primary one---how it feels on set in character with the other characters and the people playing them, your life in that time and place, there's your individual experience as you watch the finished product, then there's the release to the public, then there's the slow process of a film settling down in to a long history of film. i don't know which stage is fraught with more anxiety and intensity; each brings up its own set of terrors and exhilirations. my sense is that not everybody is pleased with the critical response to the film. that's unfortunate. but we don't make films for critics. we make them for a wide audience to go and enjoy, laugh, cry etc. it is easy to attack a film for what it is not. i suppose it feels good to get excited about something like snakes on a plane cause it makes moviemaking seem like anybody could do it. maybe anybody can. i wish that people would approach a film like ttm in the spirit in which it is offered---a good time, laughs, perhaps a moment of empathy or three---and maybe some legitimate disappointment (who knows---that's certainly fair)because at this point all that carries this film is word of mouth. not the mouths that carp. the mouths that count. yours. thanks for joining in on all this. d
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Comments
I am going to see your film in about 4 hours and can hardly wait. I have been very disappointed in the amount of publicity so far. I have really had a hard time finding the time and location to see it. I hope the wide release will have better publicity. The website is great and I can get a feel for the fun that's ahead. There have been a great number of compliments about your performance and that delights me. I will be going to see it several times during the wider release and hope the box office figures are good. Now we have to wait for The Secret and The TV Set. Keep 'em coming, David. We will be there to support anything you do.
Posted by: tamilu | August 19, 2006 09:58 AM
Hi David
Unforunately I haven't seen the movie yet. My city is not one of the 38. As for the critics personally I don't use the critics when I am deciding on what to spend my money. Too many times they have fallen all over a movie that did nothing for me. At the same time they have missed some wonderful movies that thank goodness we found either at the theater or DVD. As for Snakes I think alot of people got caught up in the hype. For all the press it didn't have a great opening day. I think Hollywood forgets that not everybody in the movie audience is between 13-21. We are adults and we have money to spend for movies(forget all the bills that go along with being adults for a minute). I want amovie that I can watch and maybe relate too. I know for sure that age 42 I don't see much I can relate in the teenage movies that they seem to be offering lately.
Thanks for checking and keeping us updated.
Jennifer
Posted by: Jennifer | August 19, 2006 09:58 AM
hi david!
i think the trailer already achieved the goal to touch the audience: at least it did with me ---
i am so looking forward to this movie!!!
- any idea of a release date for germany?
glad you are okay up there in canada...! ;)
enjoy the time +
take care
sophie
ps.: hey david! on your house of d blog you did this thing called "audio blogging" - would you consider doing that again here on this blog!? :)
Posted by: Sophie (Frankfurt, Germany) | August 19, 2006 09:59 AM
linda - where art thou??
-i dont have the first comment this time - but nevertheless: i bet you again! ;P
Posted by: Sophie (Frankfurt, Germany) | August 19, 2006 10:02 AM
Curse limited releases! Well, the film is not available for me to see in Utah yet, but I'm waiting patiently and planning on living vicariously through a friend who lives in one of the lucky cities. I've read some of the reviews, and I get what you're saying, Duke. I read the criticism, and am left thinking "Um... ok... still sounds like a really good movie, but the reviewer is just being obtuse and overly critical." It was interesting to see the types of comments made about this film verses the comments made about Material Girls. You just can't trust the critics, can you? So yes, word of mouth seems to be the best way to go. Good luck with your new film!
PS. Just watched The Rapture for the first time. Groovy hair, dude.
Posted by: Lizzie | August 19, 2006 10:02 AM
A critic's review rarely makes me avoid a film.
Frankly, I can't wait to see you on the big screen doing more than a moment of lighter comedy...some of my fave moments from that long series you were in were the lighter episodes. ;-)
I share with you an appreciation of dry humor, whether it's Tom Lehrer's, for instance, or yours. I liked what I saw and felt in Connie and Carla - you were so sweet - and in Evolution.
I have to tell you that I had to smile and nod my head when one critic said you were "the man all American women wanted to be married to."
Those are lofty ideals to live up to, but I'll bet Tea would confirm that you do live up to them...in reality.
Posted by: Diane | August 19, 2006 10:05 AM
Well David, i saw the film twice:)Once at a free showing in Philly and then in New York yesterday. And i must say that the audience responce in both places were wonderful. I also took the time to read the many reviews and realized that even if some didn't love the film they did appreciate your talent as well as the whole cast. I took out some of the nice words said about you and the rest of the cast and tried to put them in one place. So here it goes
'Trust the Man' seemed to swerve towards a homage to 'When Harry met Sally' at times. With frequent New York scenery shots and some therapy scenes that didn’t seem to integrate into the main plot ; the film almost suffers as a result. Thankfully, it survived this association and benefited from a tight running time, laugh out loud scenes and some strong performances from actors not usually associated with the genre.
The central quartet of actors is very good, even with the slightly askew casting. And the colourful side characters are great fun;
Working with a beautifully in-sync comic ensemble including Julianne Moore, David Duchovny, Maggie Gyllenhaal and Billy Crudup, Freundlich, who's Moore's husband, delivers what is by far his most accessible -- and most satisfying -- film to date.
It is left to the cast to give this flimsy script any weight; but they do a good job. Moore and Duchovny have a tired disrespect for each other and the ever-widening gap in their marriage is well realised. With less to work with, Maggie Gyllenhaal still comes out sparkling, and the nice-but-drippy Elaine stays on the likeable side of shallow. All four leads show a flair for comedy and are at their wittiest in quick asides and sly glances
While the characters are synthetic, the performers are very engaging together. Moore and Duchovny, who starred in the alien-invasion comedy "Evolution," have a relaxed, old-married-couple grace, the usually sober Crudup shows nice comic charm, and Gyllenhaal infuses far more depth than her cliched character carries on the page.
The performances are all solid, and well-adapted to the material.
A smart, witty, and consistent comedic dialogue is weaved into each scene. It is laugh-out-loud funny from start to finish and the performances are solid all around.
The characters and the comedic moments that spill from their experiences is what makes this film shine. Trust the Man is a movie that any Twenty-something or Thirty-something couple will thoroughly enjoy. If you don't make it out to the theater, this movie should be added to your Netflix queue for that quite night in.
Trust the Man is ultimately a showcase for its male leads, with Crudup executing a nice tightrope act between charming and irritating doofus-ness, and Duchovny imbuing his porn-loving Tom—a man hiding his fears and disappointments underneath a façade of jokey sarcasm—with so much flippant silliness that, at times, the actor seems like he's willfully attempting to undermine the film's realism by treating his role like one big excuse to goof off.
And if it works for you, it's a good bet that the cast was part of the sell. All four leads are well-known-ish indie actors who've flirted with mainstream stardom for years. They've worked with each other before (Duchovny and Moore in Evolution; Moore and Crudup in World Traveler) -- and writer-director Freundlich is Moore's partner and co-parent, so the production is certainly close to home.
But each actor gets to move out of their comfort zone a little, too: Duchovny gets to be scraggly; Moore gets to be a centered mother (and for once let her art imitate her life); Gyllenhall gets to be gamine and sexy, and Crudup gets to make an absolute ass out of himself.
The performances, however, are uniformly strong, with memorable cameos from Ellen Barkin, Garry Shandling, Bob Balaban, and the always delightful and rarely recognizable James Le Gros. (Wade Major) (Pacific’s ArcLight, Laemmle’s Monica 4, Landmark’s Westside Pavilion)
The chemistry among the cast is great; the film feels, for the most part, like you're watching a group of old friends going through life crises together. The plot, in a nutshell: Rebecca (Moore) is a famous actress who has just taken on a stage play; her husband, Tom (Duchovny) is an ex-ad exec who recently quit his soulless job to stay home with the couple's two young kids. Rebecca and Tom are having sex issues: Specifically, Tom wants more of it ("Twice a day," Rebecca mouths to the couples' therapist (Garry Shandling) during their once-yearly therapy tuneup) and Rebecca doesn't. Moore turns in her usual classy performance as Rebecca, who's taking a break from the screen (as so many stars seem to be doing these days) to take a spin in a Broadway play.
Freundlich created characters who are whiny indeed, but are so darn affable and charming that they aren't aggravating about it. It certainly helps that the entire cast is first rate and playing to their considerable strengths.
A witty and incisive look at the vicissitudes of love with talented actors Julianne Moore, David Duchovny, Maggie Gyllenhaal and Billy Crudup would have been welcome indeed.
But the cast is fun to watch, especially Duchovny, whose comic timing couldn't be better. They're all adept at repartee, a good thing considering how these couples natter on. Moore, who is married to Freundlich and has worked with him twice before, obviously gets his drift, and she brings genuine emotion to Rebecca's speech about the sanctity of love.
Posted by: Marlene | August 19, 2006 10:15 AM
Hey David,
There were a lot of really nice reviews, too. And your performance got singled out so many times, which you should feel awesome about. I think you and Bart and the rest of the cast obviously had a great time, the movie looks great, and I can't wait to see it when it comes to my area!
Posted by: J | August 19, 2006 10:18 AM
OK, here are some of the remarks i found about David
David Duchovny is surprisingly funny as a jock and sex addict and his group therapy session is hilarious. Surrounded by other ‘sexual deviants’ he creates his own fetish, and it has quite a lot to do with deli meats.
while Duchovny looks to be really enjoying himself on screen for the first time in a long while.
David Duchnovy gets to shed his Muldur image and play an (almost) average guy.
David Duchovny is a deadpan delight
Duchovny gives his most vulnerable performance of his career. It's a shame that some people will always look at him as "that guy from that alien tv show." He has so much more to offer.
David Duchovny has never been so self-effacingly funny as he contends with a perpetual itch that he can't scratch
but Duchovny–one of the most underappreciated comic actors in movies today–rescues the film from banality with his deadpan zingers.
Duchovny's performance is equally strong,
To his credit, Duchovny takes a role that could have been played as a straight cad, and adds layers of depth and conflict to him that make him likable in spite of his cheating ways.
Duchovny is charming and every inch a leading man,
Moore and Duchovny, who were teamed in the dire sci-fi comedy "Evolution" a few seasons back, actually seem like an old married couple.
It's a sheer pleasure to watch David Duchovny as a desperate househusband in the romantic comedy TRUST THE MAN. With flawless timing and a sly smile, the former X-Filer steals the show - impressive, considering he shares the screen with Julianne Moore, Billy Crudup, and Maggie Gyllenhaal."
But the cast is fun to watch, especially Duchovny, whose comic timing couldn't be better
This one gives him a complement and then zings him
Duchovny -- who somehow gets lead billing -- is amusing, particularly when he joins a sex addicts group and feels the need to spice up his group confessions. But -- after years of making porn-movie jokes on "The X Files," and then playing pervs on "The Larry Sanders Show," "Twin Peaks" and "Full Frontal," you'd think he'd want to give this sleazy side of him a rest.
The comedy in “Trust the Man” springs as it should from dialogue, characters, situations and performances, and these things work often enough to keep you seated and laughing. As the horndog Tom, Duchovny especially rebounds from his 2004 semiautobiographical catastrophe “House of D,” and I can’t help but wonder if he’s the most interesting character in the film because he is its creator’s obvious alter ego.
often-amusing guy riffs of Crudup and Duchovny,
Duchovny and Crudup both doing particularly strong work (Duchovny is wry and subtle,
Director Bart Freundlich has an amazing cast: his wife Julianne Moore, the talented Billy Crudup and the affable, don't-you-wish-he-was-
Posted by: Marlene | August 19, 2006 10:20 AM
Lol Sophie, you won this time.
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Hi David, good to see you again, and please don't just leave, let us know when you go on.
Now about all those critics around...It's so funny because even the critics don't seem to agree with eachother. One wrote he hated it, the other loved it. So what is it? It's all a personal opinion then, nothing to do with it being good or bad. As usual. I don't know what's 'wrong' with the script, because I haven't seen it yet, but I did see the trailer and clips and I thought those were incredibly funny. I don't think the audience will look at a movie the way critics do, so it's no use to rely on their reviews either. I still think most critics write those reviews because so they can say 'look, I wrote that'. No more, no less. It's a stupid job in my opinion. I like to rely on my own opinion and that one if quite simple actually. I like it, or I don't. But I'm sure I like this one. The cast is great, and don't we all need a good laugh these days?
Linda61
Posted by: Linda61 | August 19, 2006 10:45 AM
*waving at Marlene*
As my acting teacher says, the actor's job is to move the audience. If you can do that, then you've done your job right. David, everything I've seen you in has moved me. As an actor, you have that ability. And you've done your job correctly.
There is a reason I've been your fan for 12 years- I can't get enough of you. Just keep doing what you're doing.
I'm going to see TTM this weekend. I loved your joint interview with Bart yesterday on the DC radio station 107.3! You guys are hysterical together- now I REALLY can't wait to see this movie!
Much love to you!
Namaste,
Jenny
Posted by: Jenny | August 19, 2006 10:52 AM
I forgot! Good luck with your new movie. We'll keep watching you!!!
Linda61
Posted by: Linda61 | August 19, 2006 10:54 AM
Hi David,
I used to let Siskel and Ebert make me feel stupid for liking movies they didn't or not liking movies they did. Over the years I realized there are many other critics out there and very little correlation between what any of them say and my reaction to a given film. Anyway, Trust the Man delighted me and its nice to see at least some critics agreeing. The many positive comments about your comic talents are overdue. I find it odd that so many people seem to think you're not funny because of the X Files when I've always thought you are funny... because of the X Files. With regard to your previous post, (the baby lion one), I'm glad Tea wasn't really angry about the pregnancy comments. Those must have been inspired by your affectionate gesture because she certainly looks slim as can be. Just think though, if she really had been expecting, there could have been diaper derbies on the set of X Files 2. ;) Best of luck with the new movie shoot & thanks for blogging!
Posted by: Jack | August 19, 2006 11:06 AM
hi david,
you know, i'm just thinking last days that a film is often deeply connected with the life of people that made it or watch it(that's my case); i've seen "evolution" three times at theater and it wasn't planned, but in that moment of my life i needed to be somewhere else, to think to something else, and that movie was my "way out".
anyway, i now know that trust the man will be released here in italy on october (the 13th) even if they'll change the title from ttm to "men and women" (in italian "uomini e donne"), but, at least i'll see it.
thank you again for sharing your thoughts with us and good luck with your new movie
ciao, lucia
Posted by: lucia | August 19, 2006 11:08 AM
Hi David,
Well, I finally saw the movie here in L.A. and I enjoyed it immensely. I found it to be very funny and heartwarming. I realized that I was very "involved" with the story when your character met the other woman and I started chanting, "No, no, no" in my head. Haha.
I was also glad that I was watching it in a dark theater because there were a couple of lines uttered that caused me to blush profusely. :: coughs ::
Everyone gave terrific performances, and David, you truly shined. I feel like every new performance you give surpasses the last. Maybe I'm just biased, but I can't understand why more people aren't sitting up and taking notice.
Anyway, congratulations to you, Julianne, Billy, Maggie and the rest of the cast. Of course, congratulations to Bart as well. I walked out of that theater feeling good because I had been entertained. And that's what the true spirit of movies is all about.
Bravo on a job well done!
~~Julie~~
(who will never look at deli meat the same again)
Posted by: Julie | August 19, 2006 11:39 AM
hey David.
all I can say is that I personally can't wait to see the movie. from everything I've seen and heard about it so far, it looks exactly like my kind of movie. like house of d was and like the secret and the tv set will be. just keep doing what you love and love the work you do. your fans will back you up.
good luck with the new movie.
Stephanie
Posted by: Stephanie | August 19, 2006 11:53 AM
Well, I haven't read or watched any of the critics yet, and the only reason I would is to hear them say something nice about the movie. I won't be able to see it until the screening in Portland on the 29th. Can't say I've ever paid that much attention to the critics, or give a hoot about Snakes (why would I want to watch a movie about bad things happening on a plane, especially in light of recent events?). The positive buzz generated on the internet and by word of mouth is much more important to most people. Now, if we can just get the movie to stay in the theaters longer than a week, that word of mouth might actually have a chance to pay off....
Posted by: bellefleur | August 19, 2006 12:19 PM
.... looking forward to seeing it at the end of the month as a Vancouver showing has been added - I'm wondering - you mentioned 'being on set in character with the other characters' - how was that in light of your close friendship with Julie & by extension, Bart? Was that different than working with people you don't know as well? Easier? Harder? And btw - that was me patiently waiting to say hi yesterday - but i was told 'not to bother you' - too late i realized you were done for the day (they lied! ) .... next time I'll wave .....
Posted by: JM | August 19, 2006 12:32 PM
I've just returned from Galway after watching the brilliant but harrowing "The Wind That Shakes The Barley". I swing (I imagine many do) between watching serious dramas and comedies and right now, I'm really looking forward to this one! And, as far as I'm concerned most film critics talk out of their arse.
All the best with your new project in Canada
Martina (Northern Ireland)
Posted by: Martina | August 19, 2006 01:04 PM
Hello David
I hear you're having nicer weather than us in the UK at the moment? When I was in Vancouver it was quite cool, but rain or shine I still love that city! Speaking of which I'm watching CC's 'Millenium' for the first time. Dark stuff!
I keep seeing adverts for that 'Snakes On A Plane' and am tired already. It just looks like the same typical Hollyweird thriller, for me anyway. But there are folks out there that love all that excitement...somewhere I guess.
I can't comment on 'TTM' yet, but it is being released in the UK on Sept 22nd! Mum wants to come and see it with me, and several friends. Oh she wanted to see the Leno interview (she's a cat lover in every sense of the word as am I) and loved you with the baby lion cub. :-)
Have fun making the new movie. I saw a very interesting documentary on Halle Berry. Didn't realise she'd faced some pretty big problems in her life, and over come them - good for her. I also hear she goes into chat rooms incognito. :-)
As for critics? WE are our own critics. Don't need anyone else telling us.
One last thing - my fave eating place is in Gastown, 'The Spaghetti Factory' (love Italian.) Wish we had that here. Maybe one day they'll branch out from Canada?
Take care.
Penny xx
Posted by: Songbird | August 19, 2006 02:02 PM
Marlene, thanks for posting those great reveiws about David. He is awesome and I wish more ppeople appreicated his talent. I know I love your work David and can't wait for the movie to come my way...only 12 more days!
Michelle
Posted by: Michelle | August 19, 2006 02:07 PM
Hi,dd
Last week, House of D screened at GTF TOKYO CINEMA SHOW in Japan.I went to see the movie. I have already watched DVD. But it was great watching the movie on the big screen.
The audience's reaction was pretty good. We sometimes laughed, and sometimes shed tears. I want to talk House of D more with you. I eager to you making blog unrelated to the project.
Anyway, TTM official site is so cool. I believe TTM will be released in Japan too.
yuri
Posted by: yuri | August 19, 2006 02:35 PM
David,
I was lucky enough to go see the movie last night in Evanston and I really enjoyed it. The whole cast was great. My favorite scene was the first sex therapy session. People were laughing so hard it was hard to hear Tom's story to the group :) The audience reaction was great and I think a lot of people were surprised at your comedic ability. Thanks for an entertaining night and I can't wait to see your next project. Best of luck!
Steph Lee
Posted by: Stephanie | August 19, 2006 02:43 PM
Howdy David,
Forget the necessary evil we call 'the critic' in the land of visual arts, be it film, or print. If it's to judge or to praise, the critic most often times puts their role higher up the scale of value than we in the land of creative arts usually accepts. I agree, that the masses are those whom we work the hardest for and I myself listen to and then file away the information passed down by those labeled 'judge'.
If artists like yourself did not continue to work hard for the pleasure it provides and judge ~yourself~ how you may (who at times can be the harshest critic), we, the masses might never have the opportunity to make the important choices and decisions that keep us happy - and coming back again and again.
I am excited and can't wait to go to the screening of the film next week! I know what and whom I like for my entertainment dollar. Thanks David for sharing your talents with the mighty masses!! It just keeps getting better and better with each chapter ;-) Mimz
Posted by: Mimz | August 19, 2006 03:29 PM
The movie has not opened in my area yet but I have read the reviews and they make me wonder if the critics (a dubious career choice - who grows up and thinks, 'I want to spend my life telling other people what they did wrong') are watching the same movie. One loves it one hates it for all the reasons the first one loved it and another sits on the fence in between.
BTW: Just saw the two items on CineMax on Demand with you, Mr. Duchovny, and Ms. Moore - hybred, good choice.
Sara B.
Posted by: Sara B. | August 19, 2006 03:36 PM
Hello David
First of all I want to apologize by my horrible english.
I cannot comment your film, because still it has not been released here in Barcelona.
I think that he is hard when a creative work is made, to have to assume you criticize them, that naturally is not always good.
In any case I believe that most important it is to be honest and to give the best of one.
Why I have reed in these blog and in the interviews, this is what do you do in this film, to give the best thing of you for a project in which you believe. That is fantastic, hopefully all people can work every day with this conviction.
I am wishing to see TTM!
I am recommending all my friends so that I know that he is not going to me to disappoint.
Take care and good luck with your new film in Vancouver.
Posted by: Júlia | August 19, 2006 04:42 PM
Michelle>>>
You're welcome MIchelle:) It gave me great satisfaction to post those nice words. I hope that David and Bart have the time to read them. And as far as I'm concerned the critics can kiss my a**:) The two viewings I went to the audience seemed to really enjoy the film.
Posted by: Marlene | August 19, 2006 04:44 PM
TTM is coming my way, I do not intened to pay attention to a critic or two.
Why would I pay attention to someone who has their own like and dislikes before they're even seeing a movie, play or television production? I'm suppposed to decided whether I enjoy something or not. If my tastes differ with those of the critics, at least I am thinking for myself.
Sometimes, (okay, maybe often), critics can be wrond, wrong, wrong. Try giving something to an infant and saying it's yucky even before they've tried it, If they eat it, it's their choice, and they're not going to be swayed by your statements! If they don't, then it's just not to their liking. They may not even be hungry.
But repetitive negative statements might persuade someone that something isn't that great. And I say might, because there are a lot of independent thinkers out here!
You go, David, Julianne, Billy and Bart, and all you others! Come what may, you have one hell of a talented crew!
Let the public decide, and you may be pleasantly surprised.
Pattie
Posted by: Pattie | August 19, 2006 05:42 PM
All I can say is that I never listen to critics. Most times I find that I absolutely love movies that they pan and stubbornly stay away from so-called blockbusters that they rave about. I can honestly say I *still* haven't seen Titanic or a single Star Wars movie!
I don't think all critics are bad, I think that it's more a case of they are paid to do a job and will often review a movie genre that they have no personal interest in. I don't care how "objective" they say they are, they can't possibly be.
This movie will attract its own audience. There will be loyal DD fans who go see it, Julianne fans, Billy and Maggie fans, people who enjoy an intelligent comedy and are not looking for so-called action movies. As Jennifer said, we're not all in the 13-21 demographic.
I just hope that the movie theatres give TTM a fair go and it isn't pulled after just a week or two. I think this movie will find its audience, or rather the audience will find it. Whether that's on the big screen or on DVD.
Thanks for finding time in your busy shooting schedule to continue to blog, David. Your dedication to selling this movie is truly appreciated.
Kim
Posted by: Kim | August 19, 2006 07:17 PM
David, I saw the film three times this week. Monday night in DC at a screening, then twice last night in New York with a great group of girls. It was a fun film to see with friends. I'm looking forward to getting a chance to see it with my hubby when he has the time. I think he'll enjoy it as much as I did, albeit from a different perspective.
Posted by: Chriswife :) | August 19, 2006 07:22 PM
I'm 53 and cannot live on a diet of trite, violent movies. [though I will sample such stuff and frankly enjoy some of them] I'm craving intelligent, grown -up dialogue and thus, will be seeing your movie, gratified that someone is still interested in making movies that stimulate the mind, too. In word, Thanks
Posted by: Meggie K. | August 19, 2006 08:57 PM
Hi David,
I'm part of the "great group of girls" who saw the film with Chriswife and Marlene in NYC on Friday. Jen's part of the group, too, but she couldn't join us and we missed her.
Anyway, I'll repeat what I said to you at HoD's premiere "to hell with the critics." Some of those jokers would criticize world peace.
I saw it, like it and recommend it to friends. It made me laugh and it made me hungry for a blintz.
For breakfast.
Lynn
Posted by: Lynn | August 19, 2006 08:59 PM
Well I hope it hits my neck of the woods because I can't wait to see it. And if not I'll be one of the first to snatch up the DVD when it hits stores.
I've read some great things about the movie, much more so than negative things. Just let it slide off your back, I imagine it must be hard but you can't let a couple of people with a keyboard and an outlet to get to you.
Chin up and everything will be fine, peace.
Posted by: UnderMySkinner | August 20, 2006 01:15 AM
i cannot understand why critics continue to compare your movie's characters with Mulder!!! i think they're stupid... i still haven't see the movie, i'm writing from Italy, so... i'll do someday!!!
kisses
Maria Antonietta
Posted by: Maria Antonietta | August 20, 2006 02:23 AM
Hi David,
I agree with the comment about not making movies for critics - after all, they're just one person with an opinion, and I don't think that they truly influence people one way or another. It's the promotion that really counts, getting the film out there initially and then relying on word of mouth (which, I'm sure everyone here has been doing). Films like Snakes on a Plane have these massive stars who are bound to attract attention simply because of their status (I'm not saying that TTM doesn't have that either, btw!) but the plots on such films are sometimes so overblown and exaggerated it's impossible to actually invest in the film. Realistic movies, such as TTM, are so much better to watch IMO.
Em x
Posted by: Em | August 20, 2006 05:57 AM
DMan - like you said, you don't make flicks for the critics so you guys shouldn't be bothered what they blab. On the other side though, i'd hate it if something I put my heart and soul into got ripped to shreads by some lowlives with nothing more creative to write about. Bloody critics! And like I said before, I got a big mouth so word round my neck of the woods is gonna be spread far and wide!! lol!
Hugs and cookies, Ams x
Posted by: Ams | August 20, 2006 06:08 AM
And im all for Snakes on a Plane - love a bitta slapstick humour! Sorry gone a bit of topic here lol.
Ams x
Posted by: Ams | August 20, 2006 06:15 AM
David,
I have seen the film twice now and when I read some of the critics' responses, I wonder if I have seen the same film that they are commenting on. I enjoyed it a great deal. I thought the whole cast was wonderful and the story very enjoyable.
My daughter was with me the second time and while laughing at the very funny scenes was also having a great time commenting on different locations that she knew since she lives in NY
In both viewings, I was also with several different people. None of us was disappointed.
Thanks to you and the whole crew for two very enjoyable evenings.
Laura
Posted by: Laura | August 20, 2006 06:28 AM
It's really too bad that we live in a world where it's much more common for people to go see a movie in which the entire plot can be summarized in a title, than for people to go see a movie with actual substance.
Anyway. I haven't seen the movie yet (it hasn't released here, sadly) but I'm very excited about it. It looks like just the kind of movie I need to get myself out of the summer blockbuster season (seriously, I have four words for you: John Tucker Must Die. I mean, what IS that. Sometimes Hollywood depresses me.)
Best of luck to you, and to the film. With such a talented cast, there's no way I could be disappointed.
Posted by: Emily | August 20, 2006 11:49 AM
hey, don't worry. ttm is amazing, i'm sure it is. i wouldn't want to spend two hours on the bus traveling to santa monica just to see it if it weren't. i haven't seen it yet because it's not out in orange county, but i've told everyone i know to watch it. so, don't worry. the word is getting around.
you the man, david. good luck with everything.
love,
elizabeth
Posted by: elizabeth | August 20, 2006 03:46 PM
You're right, David. We are the best critics, don't pay attention to the others. The most important is what the audience can think about it.
And I'm sure it's a good movie.
Bye...
p-s: yes, I'm Midnightlover, from IMDb
Posted by: Agathe | August 20, 2006 03:57 PM
hi david. how are your balls.
Posted by: beth | August 20, 2006 08:57 PM
I just read somewhere that because the film did not do that well this weekend that it would not go wider next week. Please tell me that's not true:( I really enjoyed it so much.
Posted by: Marlene | August 20, 2006 09:27 PM
Hey David, I've been reading on the internet that the plans for wider release on Sept 1 have been scrapped. Say it aint so! If that's the case, I feel very badly for you and Bart and the rest of the cast. You must feel you've had the rug pulled out from under you. I feel very badly for me too as I will have to wait months longer to see this movie. I hope you guys wont give up on making these kinds of movies, they are valuble in so many ways that are not reflected in reviews and box office reciepts.
Take care
Tyfusion
Posted by: Tyfusion | August 20, 2006 09:30 PM
David, Bart, Julie.
I cannot believe FoxSearchlight scrapped plans for wide release of Trust the Man.
People everywhere have posted they are just waiting to see it.
I think the studio is making a mistake here.
With more promotion, people will come.
It's good. The studio just needs to tell them.
Lynn
Posted by: Lynn | August 20, 2006 10:38 PM
Dear David,
Who needs critics? No one, I suppose.
Normally I walk into cinema without any expectations. It has been a good thing to just slip into the subject and let myself be caught by it. Just feel with it.
Maybe I get to do this with TTM... I still have no news about a release in Germany.
Glad, you are doing well
Don't think too much. I already do and sometimes being too rational is no good either.
Lots of love
Anna/SAM
Posted by: Anna/SAM | August 21, 2006 12:29 AM
Damn i gotta wait til September!!!!!!!!!!
So i sreiously hope they havent decided to stop widespread release. Just once i'd like to see one of your movies in the cinema and not wait for dvd.
OT caught you on Leno....great tsuff, couldnt decide who was cuter, you or the cubs lol
you blended in well ;-)
eargerly waiting with fingers crossed.
Posted by: Vicky | August 21, 2006 06:55 AM
Marlene - where did you hear about this, and was it refering to USA only or worldwide? I do hope it's still coming out in the UK on Sept 22nd? Fingers crossed!
Penny xx
Posted by: Songbird | August 21, 2006 07:32 AM
hey DD - Saw the movie over the weekend with my hubby at 1:15am in Times Square. Loved the film. I understand your disappointment but I did read some reviews that said great things about the cast. I just wish the public could have more of a chance to decide for themselves. Thanks for posting your thoughts.
-L
Posted by: Eightimprov | August 21, 2006 07:36 AM
Listen -
Grass routes is ALL about word of mouth but there is a way to jumpstart the system. It means all of us bloggers going onto different blogs (myspace, youtube, etc) and raving about how much we love the movie and how great it is. Not as "DD fans" - that won't fly..but as people who stumbled upon the film by accident(maybe snakes on a plane was sold out) lol. -L
Posted by: Eightimprov | August 21, 2006 10:34 AM
Hi
I just checked the 'Empire' website for future movies? TTM is still set for 22nd Sept in UK according to them. :-)
Also read 'SOAP' didn't do well at the box office. Can't say I'm all that surprised.
Penny xx
Posted by: Songbird | August 21, 2006 10:47 AM
Hey David,
I read some reviews on the net, but haven't seen Trust the Man yet ; and I still can't wait to see it.
did you see that ?? I wrote octosyllables without even wanted to ! that's just soooo cool. Anyway... don't forget :
"La critique est la puissance des impuissants" (Alphonse de Lamartine)
bisous bisous bisous
Adélaïde from Paris
Posted by: Adélaïde | August 21, 2006 03:23 PM
Hey David,
I am 1 of the unfortunate people who have 2 wait for the wide release of the movie (I live in Washington state). I have read some of the reviews though & I have to say that I usually don't listen 2 em'. Sometimes the critics luv the movies I do (very rarely), sometimes they hate the 1s I do, & then when I really luv a movie they seem to bash it completely as if they were expecting way too much (my brother seems 2 b this way, bugs the hell out of me). So all I can say until I c this movie is: I luv ur work & everything [I've seen] u do on film, including tv, & I've watched the preview and clips obsessively & can't stand waiting 3 more weeks {!!} 4 this movie.
And as 4 the critics; in my opinion critic stands for ~critique~, not critisize.
Keep up the good work David and I know ur gonna hate me somewhat for saying this, but I just couldn't help myself-
~Bring on the next X-FILES movie~ PLEASE {!} tell ~FOX~ the fans want thier movie. Stop with the lawsuit already, thier killin us!
Thank you for being such an awesome actor!
God Bless,
Luv Rachel
Posted by: Rachel | August 21, 2006 05:11 PM
Oh, no!!!!! I just read they might be halting the wide realease???? This totally sucks! We've all been waiting so long for this movie to finally come out and we're so close - now they going to say "sorry, we've changed our minds!" ugh!!!!
Posted by: Michelle | August 21, 2006 07:07 PM
I think it's time for the comback of the romantic comdiesm and I'm disappointed with what I've been reading concerning Fox Searchlight's opinion.
Who the heck wants all the vilence, explosions and rude kid movies anyway?
Aren't we supposed to be using entertainment to get away from the day-to-day troubles in our lives?
I believe they used to call it "escapist fare", and we need that in movies such as Trust the Man.
The movie needs more time. Fox Searchlight should know that.
Pattie
Posted by: Pattie | August 21, 2006 09:07 PM
I deffinitely have to agree with David in that I would much rather see a movie with David or Julianne in it like Trust the Man, that actually has a story and content than some cheesy, hokey attempt at turning a profit. I'm sure once TTM actually gets to my area I will love it.
Posted by: Tiff | August 21, 2006 10:12 PM
Well for me it doesn't matter what the critics say about a movie, I will go see it if I am interested, period. Good luck with the new film & happy shooting.
Snakes On A Plane, which I just noticed that initialed spells SOAP...find meaning if you can, is over rated. It's made for my demographic (teens) but I know it will come up short. If it was going to be a real cult hit it wouldn't be all over the place like it is. It would be something like Rocky Horror, midnight showings, word of mouth, audience participation, etc. Over-hyped or not I will rent it or wait till the hype calms down. I really like Mr. Jackson, it will be worth it.
Way off point here, TTM looks really good and I believe in it. I trust you and your work. Oh, bad use of the title, sorry.
Good day to you.
Posted by: Jamie | August 21, 2006 11:57 PM
David - I must apologize for my - not even sure what to call it except my brains seemed to exit and land with that pile of s__t. My husband was astounded that i was at a loss for words and wants to see the video replay as he doesn't believe it - it was very considerate of you to take time from your busy day to say hi - I think i was so surprised i just froze? and can we say camera? how could i forget to ask for a pic? I'd come back again but that seems a little creepy-stalker-like and scares me-chalk it up to one of those moments - but thanks again. Oh, and the pile of s__t was a late in the day aquisition - so I didn't have to inhale it's fragrant bouquet much at all.
A/JM
Posted by: A./JM | August 22, 2006 07:36 AM
Hi David -
I'm not sure you'll read this far down into the comments at this point, but I wanted to explain a bit about the frustration and disappointment many of us, as your fans, seem to be feeling over some of TtM's negative reviews and its small box office this past weekend.
We SORELY want the rest of the world to realize what most of us here have known for years - that you are one of the best, most compelling and underappreciated actors out there these days. With every new project you take on, our hearts YEARN that this will be one that sets the world on fire and opens everyone's eyes to your brilliant talent and mind. We only want the best for you, so while we're loving TtM and spreading word for all to ignor the critics and see this funny, endearing film, you'll have to excuse our regret that this one still didn't deliver our fondest desire for you and your career.
Take care and enjoy Vancouver,
Kathy
Posted by: Kathy | August 22, 2006 08:08 AM
How many films get two thumbs down and end up #1 on the weekend box office...lots. Of course not being an 18 year old male or wanting to watch Will Farrell run around in his underwear (again) makes my viewing pleasure a little slim these days because evidently studios don't believe us out of the demographic, over-the-hill folks go to movies anymore. Here's hoping that the film gets out here to the mouths that count...give us a chance to spread the word!
Posted by: Randi | August 22, 2006 11:26 AM
hi david, i saw the movie at the preview in NY on thursday and i thought it was wonderfully funny, touching and well acted. the friend i brought with me didn't know much about the film beforehand and also loved it. we were both quoting some of the funniest parts the rest of the night, which i consider the sign of a truly enjoyable and entertaining movie.
the movie also started a good discussion between my friend and i about fidelity and forgiveness in relationships. how much can love conquer and when is trust truly destroyed beyond repair? it made us examine how much we think we'd be able to forgive. it's a special movie that can make you laugh and think at the same time.
congratulations on being such a talented part of a great project. i have never seen you play a character with such emotional nuance and commitment. it wasn't david up there, it was tom. and how beautifully flawed, emotionally complex and comedic he was. it is hard to make a character who cheats on his wife and buys porn in front of his baby likeable, but you did it.
everyone involved in this movie should be proud no matter what a few critics have to say.
as a side note - just wondering how you cope with some of the disappointments that come along with the entertainment business? it breaks my own heart to see critics and the studio not give a movie the respect it deserves, and I'm not involved at all! i don't know how you do it.
best always
xo
allison
Posted by: Anonymous | August 22, 2006 09:14 PM
Hi David!
Why should I listen to critics?!?! I have a mind of my own, and it's me alone to decide wether or not to see a movie or not.
It's a shame that nowadays each-and everything is about money.
Critics never seem to take the time to 'get into' what an autor, actor or director really wanted to say with his project.
As I said in the beginning, I make my own decision and therefore look forward to see TTM. Even if I have to wait a while. I can be sooooo patient.
From what I've seen so far it's a wonderful movie and your performance and those of your colleagues is great.
Please keep going with what you think is good. You're such an intelligent person, and the choices you make are for sure ones you can live with and dedicate your heart to.
Go your own way, don't listen to critics and good luck with your new movie.
Take care
clariss
Posted by: clariss | August 23, 2006 01:47 AM
Hello David,
I wish you wouldn't listen to the critics. They're all pretty much a bunch of mindless, hippocritical, blustering, over-blown, egotistical morons with large vocabularies who seem to only like foreign indie films requiring subtitles.
However, I imagine reading reviews of your work is much like a toothache: you know it's there and you can't stop sticking your tongue in it, no matter how badly it hurts.
What makes a film interesting to me, your average film-goer? The story, the actors, the director -- the HEART of the film.
That's what *I* go to see, and I don't give a flying flip what the critics think.
Critics, in the end, *do* influence the studios, but, in my learned opinion, the studios' PR departments don't have the intelligence of a matched set of doorknobs if they think we'd rather see "Talladega Nights" or "Snakes On A Plane" instead of a thoughtful, funny film like "Trust The Man."
The studios could do themselves -- and all of you involved with the film -- a great favor if they'd just read the comments on yours and Bart's blogs, the various websites out on the internet and generally listen to the audience.
Times are changing in Hollyweird, as you no doubt know. Don't give in, David; keep making the films *you* want to make -- and the rest of us will be there to see them.
I thoroughly enjoyed "House of D" at a premiere and then *paid* to go back to see it three more times (and bought it on DVD).
It was an utterly and completely enjoyable film with heart. I've used that word again -- "heart." But, for me, that's what I look for in a film.
It's what you normally deliver, too, David.
Thanks for all your hard work. Keep it up! All of us out here will do our part, too.
FOX SEARCHLIGHT: If you're reading this, learn the word "Google." USE Google. From there, type in "Trust The Man" and follow the links. Read and find out what the audience thinks. WE are the ones who go to the theatres and spend our hard-earned dollars. WE are the ones who care!
THX Dolby has the correct slogan, and it's too bad you don't adhere to it as well: "THE AUDIENCE IS LISTENING."
THE AUDIENCE IS ALSO WATCHING.
We know what we like and we go see what we want, regardless of reviews and critics' supposed wisdom.
We're *not* all idiots.
~ Anubis
P.S. David, if you need an "Arkansas Specialist" for "Fun Lady," I'm available. Arkansas is a whole other universe with its own "dialect(s)," sayings and just plain weirdness. You really should go there and immerse yourself in the, er, culture for a week or so before you start principal photography (even if you don't film there). My Mom is from Arkansas and one of her late sisters could have easily been the "Fun Lady." The difference is that her sister looked *nothing* like Tea; not to mention she was a VERY senior citizen at the time. I suppose it could all be blamed on in-breeding...
Posted by: Anubis | August 23, 2006 04:54 PM
Just checking in from a hot and sunny island (am on vacation). Very cool to see a new message!
Good luck with your new movie.
All my best,
Nicole
Posted by: Nicole, The Netherlands | August 24, 2006 08:32 AM
Nicole!! I want a postcard!!
Linda61
Posted by: Linda61 | August 24, 2006 08:34 AM
i just got back from seeing the movie and i loved it! such a good point of view -- DIFFERENT from every other movie out there -- and pretty hilariously funny in moments. also heartbreaking at some -- david, love the scene with billy on the street when you tell him to shutup. just... lovely. and... honest. the whole movie was honest. i love that. i don't want to spoil anything for anyone who hasn't seen it, so i won't post any more details, but GO SEE IT!!! =)
Posted by: jessica | August 26, 2006 05:55 PM
Hi David. I am hoping to see the movie next week after the kids go back to school. It is playing about 45 minutes from my home. I was very upset by some of the critics words. I find that I want to go see the movies they don;t like because I tend to disagree with them.
All my best,
Kara S.
Posted by: Kara S. | August 27, 2006 11:32 AM
Okay,saw your movie yesterday in NYC,it is absolutely fantastic.The best movie i've seen in a while,and i go to the movies really often.It may be kind of 'open minded'(kind of an understatement) when it comes to sexuality,but it is funny,intelligent and sweet.no need to worry about it,and the theatre was all full,which means that there are a lot of other people like me,who prefer this kind of movies and who don't care for promotion like it has been the case in snakes on a plane.keep on doing what you're doing!!!Joana,Germany
Posted by: Joana Lück | August 27, 2006 02:16 PM
Hey David,
Just got back from the screening held here in good ol' Raleigh NC. Very enjoyable movie and the rest of the audience seemed to agree. Mostly couples (sadly, I be a single). A lot of laughter from all, and several guffaws from the men.
I filled out a survey and told them I'm recommending this to friends, and not just because I'm a fan of yours.
I'm telling my friends to take their husbands. This is definitely a movie couples can enjoy together.
banlu
PS - I still think you should portray Mike Krzyzewski (freely admit to copying and pasting his name, LOL), 'though Billy Crudup, being a Carolina grad, may disagree.
(NC State gal, here)
Posted by: banlu | August 28, 2006 07:23 PM
David,
The movie played tonight - the theatre was packed - and the crowd was thoroughly enjoying the film! I sure hope the wide release is a success. Judging from the comments overheard leaving the show, I believe there will be some good word of mouth advertising happening here ;-)
Great job to the entire cast! Thank you David, and Julianne and Billy and Maggie and especially to Bart for putting his heart and soul into the writing and carrying it through to the screen.
I walked out of that theatre appreciative to the work that went into it. Kudos. Mimz
Posted by: Mimz | August 29, 2006 09:01 PM
Hi David,
I'm sure 'Trust The Man' is a good movie, but probably I won't be able to watch it, because I'm almost sure it won't be released here, in Portugal, unfortunately...
I'm really upset because I really wanted to watch it, and I'm a big fan of yours...
I hope you read this,
Anna
Posted by: Anna, Portugal | August 31, 2006 08:35 AM
Hello David,
I am a movie reviewer who loved "Trust the Man," and not just because I happen to be a huge fan of yours. I'll do everything in my power to make the people of upstate New York flock to theaters when the film is released there.
You are brilliant, and your fans are very loyal. Keep 'em coming.
Sincerely,
Rebecca
Posted by: Rebecca | August 31, 2006 07:51 PM
Saw it last night - loved it. The synergy between the cast members, the smart & sexy humour - nicely done. I laughed - a lot - and I usually don't find much in the land of film that does that for me. I loved the scene with Julie and her retainer - so many little touches that were very true to family/married life - including that priceless opening scene - how much freedom did you have to ad lib? And why the line changes from the trailers - or is that a US vs. Canadian release thing?
Posted by: Angie | September 1, 2006 08:36 PM
Hi
I live in England and I've just seen that the film's coming to my local cinema. Hurray!!!
Love Christine
Posted by: Giddych | September 4, 2006 05:42 PM
Mr. D or someone who can let him know, one of your most staunch fans, "Pam" died August 24.
We were shocked to read that today, and I have no more information to post on it, but maybe someone else will.
She was running the alt.fan.david-duchovny forum at Google Groups.
We thought you would want to know.
Pattie
Posted by: Pattie | September 6, 2006 04:39 PM
There's a good chance this *really* isn't the time and place for this, so I hope it won't come off as tacky or impolite or frightening or threatening or even embarrassing, because it all comes directly from my heart. Accusations of wordiness, I can handle, because this will be nothing, if not wordy. 2,798 ...give or take a few. Guilty, as charged.
But by way of disclaimer, David, from the bottom of my currently broken heart, given my druthers, nary a hair on your head or a speck of dust within your charmed life would be so much as disturbed, I promise, and certainly not by me. Well ...maybe the hair. 8) Given even more of my druthers, I would've passed my sentiments on to you more or less privately and in person. But ...what are the odds? ;D For that reason, I hope you'll all forgive the show of schlock for a few minutes, because this is really important to me, on this day, in particular. Best case scenario, you (or anybody else) won't be too offended by my long-winded and sappy overtures in a very public place.
As Pattie mentioned, news reached me on Monday of a devastating and tragic loss (which occurred on August 21st), for me and all of us in the Duchovny Community; the death of a wonderful, sweet lady very dear to me, in spite of never having had the privilege of meeting her in person, and someone you, yourself, knew and *had* met in person, by the way, David. Pam thought the world of you and she'd become a regular fixture at all your Malibu Triathlons and most all your Q & A screenings in California and elsewhere. We all loved her for the comprehensive reports of her adventures, especially those of us who couldn't be there.
I can't speak for everyone, of course, but as an obsessive observer, I think I can safely say that all of us who knew of or knew Pam, directly or indirectly, counted on and cherished her for her Duchovny Devotion, her generosity with the results, and her exuberant wit and bubbling personality to make our days brighter. Learning of her untimely passage leaves an impossibly huge void in all our David lives, whether you're familiar with Pam and her diligent and astonishing research and sharing capacity or not. Take my word for it, Pam was a vital keeper of information and cog in our David wheel, and I now consider myself regressed to the full Six Degrees of Separation from Duchovny without her; my vicarious life with David in Public grew lesser on August 21st.
Well beyond that relative triviality, Pam was one of the dearest, sweetest, kindest, brightest, wittiest, bighearted, most benevolent, animal and peace-loving people I know, and there are no words for how much, I, personally, will miss Pam.
I was never shy about letting Pam know how wonderful I thought she was, something I think embarrassed her, because Pam was also quite modest. Never stopped me, anyway. And yet, I owed Pam several emails when she left us, had every *intention* of answering them all ...and I never did. And now, I can't. The road to good intentions is paved with regret for me and it's those left living who truly suffer when someone leaves us. Once again, I see why. D'oh. We overlook saying the things in our hearts for others, things we need to and should say, never considering there's always such a thing as waiting too long, and then all of sudden, you've waited too long, and it's too late. Neglect of good intentions becomes lifelong regret.
I'll never regret that I knew Pam. Pam enriched my life in ways she, at the end of her life, may never really have known. But Pam was always so bright and perceptive and detail oriented, I've convinced myself that Pam knew how wonderful we all thought she was, even if she'd never have admitted it with another fifty years to do so. She had to know that the world will be noticeably less fun and informed without her. I hope even more now, that there truly is a Great Beyond. I'll never stop wishing to meet her, and now, a Great Beyond, if there is one, would constitute my second chance; and it's a chance I don't want to let go again. Either way, peace be with her and her family and friends, and may she forever rest in peace.
Pam, on the chance you're Out There reading, sweetie, I was one of your biggest fans, you know, and I'm gonna miss you something awful. I really hope they had a totally fabulous Mac, with infinite memory and storage space and all your favorite sound bytes and favorite features and all the coolest and most useful FREE software, waiting for you when you got there. ;*) Please tell me Heaven hasn't gone corporate, too. ;P
As I believe, everything that happens, good or bad, has a purpose. If I see no other real purpose in it, Pam's unexpected passing reminded me again of how we tend to let everyday life and our own desires for personal gratification and fulfillment cancel out the time and the courage and the need to do really important things, like making sure the people we love know that we do and why ...how wonderful and important to the beauty of life they really are. I wanted to make sure I didn't let this particular opportunity to express my gratitude for another personal VIP go by, as have so many others, until it was too late, like with Pam.
I met you a few months ago, too, David. Very briefly, but still the most way cool thirty seconds of my life, and definitely the most memorable of all. I have to thank you for that, of course. You were really so sweet and giving and kind to me, considering the circumstances, that I came away from the experience loving you even more than I thought possible in thirty seconds, even more dedicated to following your career around like a puppy for the rest of my life. You can count on it.
The most strangely startling phenomenon I came away with from that whole evening leading up to meeting and speaking to you face-to-face was how it humanized you for me. It's not that I thought you an alien from outer space, or a cloning experiment for the perfect male before, although I think you just almost fit the criteria. ;) The more I know about you, the more perfect you seem, so you can't really blame me for wondering sometimes if you aren't really the result of some mad (albeit brilliant) scientist's idea of perfection in men. But as I mentioned, everything has a purpose, and if there was any purpose in an otherwise meaningless (but not to me) thirty seconds in your presence, it's that I realized how exceptional, but a-lot-like-the-rest-of-us regular you really are. You're such a ...guy! ;D A really good one, but still a guy.
Now, anyone who's been there knows how "tragically" spellbinding meeting you under similar circumstances can be, and being my very first and perhaps only opportunity for this pleasure, when I stepped up in front of you for My Big Chance and made eye contact, everything I'd thought about getting across, or trying to, for the last ten or fifteen years of my life when My Big Chance came, evaporated into the very thin air around my brain at the time. You're very good with those eyes, and they don't need to be any bigger. They're quite disarming in person just like they are. What's my name again?
So instead, I said something terribly gauche, natch. But you laughed when I said it, at least, and genuinely, from what I could tell of my favorite ACTOR. ;P I hope you weren't offended, because I swear, it was utter spontaneity and had to have come from the airiness around my head, and I'm still glad I made you laugh, regardless of what I had to say to do it. I felt like I'd sunk a three-pointer from the opposite end of the court at the buzzer to win the finals in game seven, if you get my drift. My wildest dream come true, woo-HOO!
What's still bothering me today, however, is what I didn't, and would never have had the concentration, courage and your attention to say. So I'm-a gonna say it now, and hope that in the words on a screen, you can sense my true motives and sincerity when I say it, as you may not have seen all over my face when you met me. *g* Here goes.
There are two people, besides myself, in my life, who for better or worse, have consistently kept me alive for the last ...more than 25 years. Sad, but true. *g* Nevertheless, one is my beloved husband of 26 years, and for the last 15 or more, the other is you, David. Don't freak, okay? ;D As I said, I don't mean for this to sound so very melodramatic and schmoopy and ulterior of motive, but it's the honest-to-God truth, and I could not comfortably avoid trying to tell you that another day, even if I had to make you and everyone else listening uncomfortable to do so. ;P
Maybe you didn't, in reality, keep me alive or save my life, but I will say without hesitation that it could seem that way sometimes, and if nothing else, you've made it a *whole lot* easier to get through the everyday drudgery life can get to be. You can make even the heaviest day feel lighter, trust me. That's quite a feat, whether you believe that or not. No one, on a movie or TV or computer screen, fascinates and entertains and reaches inside my head like you do, and as a result, you can make my life seem even more worth living.
If you've ever wondered how your presence on Earth as a public figure affects people, how widespread your particular brand of goodness and light goes, how much good you really do the world by being a thinker/actor/writer/director/producer/husband/father/all-round nice guy, I'm here to tell you from very far away that you have far-reaching powers you'll never realize over people you can't even see or touch, and in my case, at least, they're ALL good and admirable powers. Bring. It. On.
I've been following your work and news and factoids about you for so long, you've come to seem like a long-lost relative or friend, someone I love and care about, and because he's so busy, he never writes, he never calls *g*, I've never met his beautiful wife or his two lovely children ;-PPP, but he's in my blood, if not of it, and I still love him like family anyway. I'll always, always care about what happens to you. Your joy is my joy. Your pain is my pain, just like anybody else in my family (cyber or real life) that I never get to see and hang out with.
Not only that, but you inspire me. To live until the next David appearance *g*, on film or TV or live or Memorex or print or audio, and to create; to write, to draw, to confabulate, to build websites, to dream ... You virtually *enflame* my imagination and creativity like no one else on Earth and because of that, you've become a crucial part of me and my everyday life, without even trying, and from distances ranging from 1200 miles to 5000 or more, at times! Do you have any idea how very remarkable that is, that you can have that kind of affect on people you don't even know?!
I hope you do, but if you don't, I came here with this humongous post, hoping to make it clear that if you ever have another bad day, Heaven forbid, or read another pukey and unfair movie review, or any harsh word about yourself, in general, that you can take a deep breath and think about that silly old woman at your blog who thinks you hung the moon and most of the stars and all nine ...or is it eight, ten planets (?) in the solar system for her and, hopefully, take comfort in how much she really, really appreciates you for it. I think you're God's gift; to not only this planet's female species, but the entertainment business and mankind, overall, and don't you EVER forget that or let any snooty, jealous asshole(s) convince you otherwise. Ya hear me? ;)
In my ever so humble opinion, you're a man of grace and intellect, humor and compassion, amongst the finest we have amongst us; an intriguing and brilliant actor and writer, every informed woman's ideal of the perfect husband and father, every sane and mature man's ideal of a trusted and loyal friend, every mother's dream of the perfect son (and my kudos and gratitude to yours, too, by the way). In other words, the closest thing to perfection on two legs that exists. You've done me more good than you'll ever know, and in ways you wouldn't want to know. ;D But all I mean to convey is that you can unabashedly consider yourself infinitely valuable and quite beloved by anyone with the brains to see beyond their own envy and your very nice and perhaps enviable packaging on the outside. I could *not* be prouder to be a Duchovny Fangirl.
I can guarantee that there's millions more like me, male and female and worldwide. As an oddly austere and ascetically corroborative example, I wouldn't have known Pam, had it not been for you. Thank you, again. You're solely responsible for so many of us becoming friends by bringing us together in the first place, and if it means anything at all to you, we ALL got your back. Whatever I, personally, can do to make your day better, I'll do. I suspect we all would. Get your own blog, *AHEM*, and we'll gladly tell you all about it regularly, and you won't have to doubt it for a minute. :)
Back on topic for a minute (!!!), along with several of my closest David friends, I've seen the subject adorable and worthwhile movie three times now, I've appreciated the opportunities more than I can say, and I hope everyone will go see it if they can and buy/rent the DVD if they can't. It's worth the cash, the time and any effort it might take to find a theater you can get to showing it, in my opinion. Bart deserves our gratitude. Standing ovation for Bart, please. It's as sweet and touching and entertaining as David is, and that's probably all I really needed to say.
I apologize for taking over the blog like it was my own, speaking of. It's so like me not to start and stop there *g*, but I had to try and make sure, at this otherwise sad time, that you never forget how important you and your career, past and future, are to me, David, all the things I meant to say when I met you, but didn't and most likely never could have. I consider all your work, every public appearance in any format a gift you've given me, and one I'll always treasure and forever hope for more. Greedy? That's me! ;D
Thanks for your patience, everyone. In my defense, at least mine is the last of many 'comments' (for now), and I *think* I'm still in the United States where I'm sitting, at least, and I needed to speak my mind, as is my right, where I'm sitting. As usual, my mind was full to the bursting point, and I could contain the need to express my simultaneous grief and appreciation no longer. On this occasion, I let everything run through my heart a few times, before I typed it all down, since this peculiar outburst of emotion was for my own peace of mind, for David, and for Pam.
My thanks again to all of you, David, Bart, Julianne, everyone involved, for a lovely and engaging movie, and I hope everyone listening has a terrific week. You can have your blog back now.
P.S. Or almost. ;P Just so you know how happy you made Pam in her much-too-short life, David, and in case you need help putting the face to the name, someone kindly posted my favorite picture of her (with you), in memoriam, here.
Pam & David - Malibu Tri 2002
Pam will live forever in my heart and many, many others. I'll always miss her. :::waving up at Pam:::
Posted by: apterous | September 7, 2006 05:56 AM
What more can we say....
Linda61
Posted by: Linda61 | September 7, 2006 08:37 AM
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Posted by: utki | September 8, 2006 05:25 PM
That was so unnecessary, and gauche. Bart or someone please remove that post and this one?
Sorry anyone had to read that.
Posted by: Pattie | September 8, 2006 07:19 PM
Gee Utki, was that necessary? Did you read it?
Linda61
Posted by: Linda61 | September 9, 2006 12:39 PM
Just want to say I never knew Pam, but that post from 'apterous'was very touching. I'm sure David will appreciate the way it has been written.
And for Pattie's post as well. :-)
Penny xx
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Oh.My.God. I do hope David Duchovny has an army of bodyguards, after reading Pattie's post. It is truly frightening. It appears to me that she needs help - desperately. And soon.
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